Episode 69. Standing side by side

When an issue arises in a relationship I find it most helpful to not take it personally and stand side by side with your loved one as you address the issue together as a team. See the issue as an opportunity for growth for both of you and the strengthening of the relationship.

When one person in a relationship has a blind spot for example, they may be displaying distorted behaviour than is very clear to you. Rather than straight up pointing it out to them in an accusatory way, it can be more empowering to approach it with compassion and find a way to address it as something non-personal that is held and viewed together side by side from the sacred space of the relationship container.

See it as a game to release an old way of being, coping mechanism, or undesirable relationship aspect, etc., and an exploration to discover a higher version of your loved one, yourself, and the relationship. Your partner will feel more respected, loved, and held and will be more open to sharing deeper aspects of themselves that can bring healing and evolution for all.